How do you usually understand the idea of 'Selfishness'? Do you agree with Kisa Gotami that she was being 'selfish in her grief'?

'Selfishness' is 'thinking of oneself only, without caring about the situation of others’.

Kisa Gotami indeed got selfish in her grief initially. She was grieving the loss of her son and went around house to house in order to find a medicine for her dead son without comprehending that this would lead to others getting reminded about their lost loved ones.